Why Learning To Love Yourself Is The Key To Thriving

Quick question. Who is the most important person in your life right now? Your partner, parent, child, sibling, or best friend? Love them as you may, the most important person in your life is YOU. Whether you believe it right now or not, it remains the unavoidable truth. We’ve been raised to believe that it is selfish to put yourself first. But self-love is by no means ‘self-ish’, it’s essential to being a kinder and more giving person, and here is why. If you don’t love and respect yourself first, you lack the basic skills to show others the love and care they deserve or to attract the love and care you deserve.

Everything and everyone in your life is impacted by your relationship with yourself. If your relationship with yourself is unhealthy or negative, everyone and everything you care about, everyone you meet, and every opportunity that comes your way, will be negatively impacted. People can only love you as much as you love yourself. When you believe that you are worthy of love, respect, admiration, and success, others will believe it too.

PROTECTING YOUR MOST VALUABLE ASSET

Think of yourself as a high-performance athlete in this relay race called life, and the people and causes you care about as your team. For you to make a significant contribution to the race, your team needs you in tip-top shape, and able to perform at your peak. YOU are your greatest asset, and when you protect, value, and promote yourself, you are in the best position to do the same for your loved ones, business, career, or cause. It’s your responsibility to look after yourself, because if you don’t, sooner or later, that burden will fall to the people you care about. Truth is, loving yourself is not selfish in the slightest, it’s quite the opposite. Still in doubt? Read on.

WHY LOVE BEGINS WITH PUTTING YOURSELF FIRST

Picture a mother and her young son on an aeroplane. Suddenly there is severe turbulence, the cabin pressure drops, and oxygen masks automatically drop down in front of them. Panicked and reactive she ignores the explicit instructions of the air hostess and frantically tries to help her son with his oxygen mask before putting on her own. Moments before she loses consciousness… she realises the foolishness of her actions and puts on her oxygen mask so that she can now calmly help her son put on his. They soon land safely, disembarking slightly shaken, but relieved.

WHY YOU SHOULD LIVE YOUR LIFE FULLY 'CONSCIOUS'

The above is a serious analogy but fit for a tough-love life lesson about the critical need for self-love. In life, to be fully conscious and empowered to make the greatest contribution to your own life and the lives of others, you need to prioritise the wellbeing of your heart, mind, body, and soul. If you don’t do this, and you’re distracted, overworked, exhausted, eating badly, living unhealthily, and feeling anxious, depressed, frustrated, or angry, you are in no position to add value to your own life, let alone anyone else’s.

WHY SURVIVE WHEN YOU CAN THRIVE?

As we age, we start to wonder why the same problems follow us around in life, like failed relationships, fear of commitment, lack of motivation, weight issues, addictions, etc. Often these unresolved issues lead to self-blame and loathing. Our conscious mind assumes that the reason things go wrong for us, and always will, is because we are somehow at fault, incapable, lazy, weak, or that we just don’t deserve any better. Meanwhile, our subconscious mind is stewing with the deep-rooted causes, unaware of what’s going on on the surface. And so we resign ourselves, giving up on who we really want to be and what we really want, when all along we already hold the power within us to rapidly transform our lives by simply learning to love ourselves.

LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE

People who don’t like themselves, end up creating lives they don’t like either. Whereas people who have learned to love themselves, end up loving their lives as a result. It’s not because they’re perfect, or they’ve always had it good, (sometimes the exact opposite is true) It’s because they’ve worked on understanding the root causes and blocks caused by situations in their lives that took away their authentic belief of their value and self-love which was innate when born, and have then learned how to harness the power of their conscious and subconscious minds to reignite this love within themselves.

YOU ARE ENOUGH AND YOU ALWAYS HAVE BEEN

You have everything it takes to get over your problems, issues, and hang-ups to rapidly start living the happy life you want and deserve. The first step is to truly believe that you are enough, that you always have been, and that you always will be. Somewhere in your childhood, or adulthood, you may have bought into someone else’s negative and incorrect opinion of you, without realising that the most important opinion of you is your own. Once you decide who you are, and you believe in yourself, and you discover your talents, and you believe in your talents, you are unstoppable. If you’re unsure of how you could ever learn to love yourself after decades of believing that you’re not loved, or not loveable, then help is at hand. This is where working with a qualified professional such as myself, gives you access to the guidance, tools, and techniques you’ll need to discover your own truth, freedom, power and true loveability.

YOU HAVE ALWAYS HAD THE POWER OF CHOICE

We can’t always choose what happens to us, but we can always choose how we respond to what happens to us. You get to decide what you think, believe, and say to yourself. And when you control this inner dialogue, everything else changes too. You get to make the best of every situation and take the best from every situation. Speak to yourself kindly, positively, and reassuringly. Boost, praise, and motivate yourself. Remind yourself that you’re enough, that you matter, that you’re significant and capable, and that you’re worthy of love, respect, admiration, and success.

YOU ARE WORTHY AND HAVE LOVE AND ABUNDANCE

Feeling loved cannot come solely from another person, it has to come from within. When you treat yourself poorly, you are setting a bad example to those around you when it comes to how deserve to be treated. When you treat yourself with love, kindness, patience, respect, appreciation, and admiration, those around you will follow your lead. So, believe in yourself, and watch the universe follow suit.